Things change but the song remains the same. The North Shore is still the North Shore, but the vibes are better than ever. It’s not so barbaric or tribal anymore. I think everybody has formed more of a community, as opposed to just acting territorial.
You always want to encourage others. In the old days, we just told people, “You’re blowing it. You’re done.” Slap ‘em and that was their therapy. You have to look at everybody individually and see how you can help them out. You’ve got to build people up. That’s where I’m at in my life. What can I do for others and for my community? It’s not about, what I can do for me anymore. That’s who I was my whole life but I realized how selfish it was.
Be honest with yourself and with everybody around you. Before, I didn’t know where the lies began and where they ended. Now I don’t have to worry about what I told you, him, her, or them. I’m clean. I don’t live a life of bondage with lies weighing me down.
It’s not about what you did yesterday; it’s about what you’re doing today. You get to a point in your life where you cut all the crap out. You cut out all the bad, all the negative people, and you keep all the people who are good for you. I’ve been walking this walk for a while. Now all my hardcore “friends” are uncomfortable around me. They don’t understand. They don’t get it. Hopefully one day they will.
Find somebody to talk with who you can really open up to. All of the stuff you internalize, that you don’t tell anybody about—you need to find somebody to talk to. If a person is your true friend, they’ll listen. They’ll encourage you.
Find somebody to talk with who you can really open up to. All of the stuff you internalize, that you don’t tell anybody about—you need to find somebody to talk to. If a person is your true friend, they’ll listen. They’ll encourage you. Some people don’t have the answers but it’s just good to let it out. It’s a form of confession and people have relied on that for thousands of years.
The worst life experiences are your best life lessons. That’s where you gain all your wisdom. And what is wisdom? It’s experience; living through it, talking through it, and feeling it out. If you hold that crap in, you’ll isolate, internalize, and won’t be able to see the solution.
You know who the most important person is in the world, right now? Nobody. Nobody is more important than anyone else. None of us are. And once you realize that, life is good. I can laugh now, but my whole life I’ve felt inadequate. My character defects tell me I’m not good enough and I have a lot of fear. But I’ve worked through all of it. And now I use that for my drive and focus. That’s what keeps me working hard, but I don’t let it eat me up anymore. You know, I still have an ego and I have my defects, but they are getting smaller as the years go on and I start seeing what’s right.
I want to be a good father, husband, friend, and uncle. Everything else is immaterial. There’s nothing worse than waking up in the morning, looking in the mirror, and not being that man you’re supposed to be. Now I can look at myself in the eye, but there was a time when I couldn’t. That says it all right there.